This was a phrase my father used a lot whenever someone was standing in their own way or indulging in self-sabotaging behaviors.
In working with countless clients over the years, I see this pattern show up again and again. And I see it myself as well.
You know the deal I’m sure.
You know what you should be doing or more importantly what you WANT to be doing, and yet you don’t do it. Or maybe you do for a little while, then you fall of the wagon, you let all best intentions fall away.
But most of all you fall out of integrity with yourself.
Each time this happens you are breaking a promise to yourself, which feeds self-doubt, low self-esteem, low self worth and breaks the trust bond with yourself. So, each time you say you are going to do better, you really don’t trust yourself. And when there is a lack of trust, there will be lack of commitment.
The tricky part about all this is that it is under the scenes, it is not something you are totally aware of, so don’t feel bad.
What you want to do here is to break this cycle and start to see real movement forward, real progression. It’s time to stop being your own worst enemy and start being your own best friend.
You may be thinking this sounds cheesy, but I am totally serious here. The moment you start treating yourself as your best friend, the friend you love deeply and want to keep around forever, you will literally see miracles begin to happen in your relationship to food, your body and everyone else around you.
What I want to share with you here is a 3 step formula for becoming your own best friend and rebuilding the trust with yourself for a healthy, long-term relationship and quantum leaps forward in your health, happiness and abundance.
Step One = What is it?
First, take a look at where you are losing integrity or indulging in self sabotage in your life? You know how this makes you feel – guilty, frustrated, angry, ashamed, depressed, anxious, tired, afraid, upset, like a victim and more. What you need to do now is acknowledge and see these areas, and then STOP doing it! Stop punishing yourself with this destructive behavior. Don’t judge it, just let it go.
If you have to, write all these behaviors on a piece of paper and burn it. Transform the energy into something that can work for you, not against you.
Step Two = Dream It!
Now, make a list of everything you say you are going to do (or want to do) and FOLLOW THROUGH.
Is this easy? No.
It is worth it? Are you worth it? Heck yeah!
It will take focus, planning, organization, commitment, discipline, determination, as well as creativity, joy and love. The good news? These are all wonderful characteristics for success with your business, your relationships, your body, and your life.
Have fun with this, make a game out of it. Every time you say you are going to do something and follow through reward yourself or do something special. Enlist a friend or loved one who can offer some additional cheerleading.
Step Three = Slow and Steady Action
Next, only bite off what you can chew in one sitting. Meaning take it slow and steady, but take consistent action. Have integrity with yourself around food and exercise. Start building your best friend relationship with yourself. You should be treating yourself like that very special friend that you really want to stick around. You wouldn’t let that friend down again and again would you? You wouldn’t tell them they’re not good enough unless you didn’t want them around anymore, right?
Well, stop doing it with yourself!
Start with one meal at a time, one step at a time. You can do this. You really can. I believe in you 100%.
Imagine if everyone you knew (and even those you don’t) started acting in integrity. The world be a totally different and wonderful place.
Start with yourself, start today. As a wise man once said, “ Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
Take a deep breath, commit now and start taking action!
Critical Bonus Step!
The Last step in this equation is to get support. We are not here to do this (or anything) on our own.
I am so incredibly grateful to those who support me in my business, in my health, in my relationships, in my spirituality, and in my fun.
Ask for help, there is no need to struggle.
My special gift to you!
On Tuesday, August 17th at 5pm PT I will be hosting a totally F*REE call:
“Secrets to Natural Weight Loss and Body Love”
In this teleclass I will be sharing my system for stepping out of your drama around food and your body, so that you can step into a slim, energized and joyful life.
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Let me help you stop being your own worst enemy and start being your own best friend.
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